Make sure you drive his ass to the interviews and make sure he goes! Sorry you feel so alone, hopefully things will turn around.

Why havn't you hit him over the head yet? !!! I don't know how you can put up with him, you must love him eh? I hope he gets a job like NOW so you are not so stressed out. Comfort eating in your case is perfectly understandable.... dont' stress about that too! Once things settle down and useless husband has a job I am sure you can start to work on your eating patterns. Try to have a lovely day... thinking of you.

Anne, that is too funny! I've done that before where I've asked for written proof. I should have mentioned for him to get a card from the interview he's at as we speak! dang it!

Hey Chris H,
I've nearly kicked him to the curb a number of times. :-) But it's hard when I think about the aspects of him that I really appreciate. Qualities that I haven't seen in too many guys I've met. I've overcome some demons in my past and feel he deserves the chance to conquer his. Nobody has ever helped him before or he's never addressed them before. This counseling is the first time he's ever delt with his life issues.

So we're going to give it a real attempt to try and fix things. And through it all, we'll know if we should stay together or not. I certainly won't let this carry on for years. We'll see how it goes...

Thanks you guys for your comments. I look forward to them everytime I post.

well, hopefully he'll go the interview(s) and continue w/therapy because it sounds like things will never improved until he actually DOES something about the situation... i give you so much credit for standing by him and can understand your lonliness, but spending time w/your daughter and taking care of yourself is what you should be doing right now... YOU did not make your husband the way he is and YOU do not have to fix it, so have faith that therapy will sink in... he would be losing an awful lot if he didn't at least try...

You poor thing! Hope you can find some stuff that makes YOU feel better.
Remember, this is your one shot at life (good land, I'm quoting rap - somebody shoot me!) -so try not to let any wet noodle hubbies suck the enjoyment out of it (life) for you. (I'm going to get in trouble for these smart aleck comments, aren't I? - but you write such a great blog and seem like a nice, hardworking person - hate to see you get dragged down.)